I’d like to comment on “Jon and Kate plus 8″… June 9, 2009

I am really sick of the poor Gosselin’s being attacked by the media…I could even be physically ill over it. What ever happened to common decency and respecting each other’s privacy? The paparazzi are sick people; you have to have no soul to do what they do. (And really, you have to have no soul to do some of the things that today’s journalists do to…I used to work at a TV station and one of our best reporters — and its unfortunate, but he’s praised because of this ruthlessness — went to an airport to follow the mother of a man who murdered a bunch of people, hid his microphone behind his back, and snuck up on the woman and ambushed her in front of hundreds of people about her son. Really? Is that what we do to other people in this country? To be honest, it makes our people look so weak.)

Now I am NOT condoning either Jon or Kate Gosselin’s behavior; however, I would never want to be in their situation.

And let me specify that “situation”: it is NOT having two sets of multiples equallying to six 5-year-olds and two 8-year-olds, and it is NOT having these children unexpectedly. The situation I speak of is that this family in the hollywood/media spotlight 24/7  — which is a redundant topic on television talk shows,  in tabloid magazines, and amongs friends and family. I don’t know what it’s like but I can imagine it SUCKS most of the time. I know how much I enjoy my personal time and my privacy, and I would not want everyone in the world know everything about me.

I think everyone needs to LAY OFF this family. They are normal people dealing with normal problems — i think they just made the wrong decision when they agreed to air out all their “clean” and “dirty” laundry.

First of all, the kids are still just kids and they’re GROWING UP. They didn’t really have a choice in the matter of whether or not they wanted to be on TV and they will unfortunately pay the price for that as they enter middle school (the tumultuous years), high school, and adulthood. Think about it: most kids just have to deal with acne and being dorky — these kids will have to deal with labels the world has placed on them and wrongful attention or alienation. I’m only hoping and wishing the best for them but that’s the reality of our world these days.

Secondly, Jon and Kate are young parents — and they were young newlyweds too. It’s not a secret that couples who marry “young” statistically don’t fare too well (Google it, you’ll see the findings). I think most of my generation and those to come have heard the “Most of your friends who married before, during, or just out of school will be divorced or married for the second time by 30,” comments. They also had children not long after being married so they didn’t really get to do the “married thing” for that long before babies came along. Now, while they try to raise 6 kids and do this TV show they are going through SO MUCH MORE than just normal married-couple woes. I’m not married yet but I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a year now…and it’s been TOUGH.

Thirdly, Kate has severe Obsessivce-Compulsive Disorder and control issues…you don’t have to be a psychologist to know that. However, those things are NOT personal faults and I don’t think ANYONE has the right to point a finger at her and say she’s a “witch” or a terrible person. We don’t know Kate’s personal history — she could have gone through something traumatic in her life to make her like that – that is how psychological problems  BEGIN. Either that or they are hereditary or learned through family members. For example, my mother died 5 years ago and she was controlling because she had to take care of my sick father, my sister and brother and I, and our home  all by herself…that was her way of solving problems, making life work, and just plain out surviving (although its evident that it took over her life, she suffered a stroke at 53 and died). Through my mother I learned these controlling habits, and when she died I lost two of the most important people in my life: HER and MYSELF. She was taken from me so quickly and unexpectedly and I had to grow up and take care of my dad and all the responsibilities of our family — I lost all sense of self and what was important to me. I still suffer from depression and often, my ways of coping are by controlling the environment around me (probably  because I couldn’t stop my mother from dying).

Fourthly, Jon is really immature…I’m not trying to be insulting but he had to be a dad at like 25 and he is clearly trying to escape from his life and get back those years in his 20’s that he lost. I know a few friends who had children in their early 20’s and they are now almost 30 and want to go out and party and get drunk. (Advice to youngn’s…WAIT and just have fun and get it out of your system.)

I don’t doubt that Jon and Kate LOVE their children dearly; but the media and their sudden ENORMOUS family in their mid-20’s changed them both. They need to get OFF the TV and work on themselves and their marriage. They need to learn how to respect each other and BE PARENTS — by constantly insulting one another and never having each other’s back they are doing themselves and their children a huge disservice. But they can’t do that when their JOB is a television show.

I am not married, I’m not a doctor or a psychologist. I did however go from age 19 to 35 overnight and nhave learned a lot through my personal experiences in the last year. I may not have gone through everything that people have gone through but I have a deep resepect for others — and I firmly believe that you can not judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. I did not mean this blog to come off judgemental but just a reflection of how I see things. I don’t know how I’d be if I was in Jon and Kate’s situation but I imagine it wouldn’t be far from where they are.

“Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.”